There are so many articles that you can read about raising a daughter and worrying about body image. What legacy will you pass down to her? Everyone is posting them and as the mom of a beautiful girl I read them all.
Losing weight after Olivia was hard. Losing weight after Axel is impossible. I'm serious. Some people can lose weight while they nurse, but I am not one of them. (I did not nurse Olivia) My body clings to each and every calorie so that it can continue to make milk for Axel. When I lost a couple pounds, my milk supply dipped.
Honestly, I don't mind being chubby that much. But I feel like I'm supposed to mind. When I tell people I can't lose weight while nursing they all have a solution for me. "Try Weight Watchers" "Count calories" The rebel in me wants to stay fat forever just to prove a point. Well, that's not healthy. But what if I'm happy like this for now?
I'm not saying I'm giving up and accepting my new weight. I don't want to live an unhealthy lifestyle. I still plan to eat healthy and exercise as regularly as possible. I have some progress to make in both areas, for sure. But can't I be happy with out being perfect?
I want to reject society's idea that my body must be perfect for it to be beautiful, but at the same time embrace that if I truly love my body I will feed it the best foods and exercise it regularly.
I want Olivia to remember me happy, regardless of my weight. I want her to enjoy a wide variety of foods and live an active lifestyle. I don't want her to use the word "diet" on a regular basis or remember a mom who is always planning to "start my diet on Monday".
Loving myself is the best way to teach her to love herself as well.
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On a less serious note, I'm super excited to do a link up with my friend Tiffanie next week! Next Wednesday we're co hosting a link up for lunch ideas, called "Easy as PB&J". It's hard for me to find lunch ideas for me or my kids that are quick and yummy. I want something simple and easy, just like peanut butter and jelly but that also tastes good (I'm not a fan of the PB&J, but Olivia likes them alright) You don't have to be a stay at home to do this. If you take homemade lunches to work we would also love for you to share your ideas! We'll be posting next Wednesday and we'd love for you to join us!